In Romeo and Juliet, we see opportunity for our title characters to come clean, but so far, they haven't. There are plenty of reasons why they should and plenty of reasons why they don't, but the whole situation begs a pretty interesting question. Answer the following based on your own opinion and experiences. Provide examples if necessary.
When is it better to work things out through a direct confrontation? When is it better to use indirect means?
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If there is an obvious problem you are having with somebody, you need to talk to them about it. Don't beat around the bush. If someone is openly calling you out on something you need to deal with it right away. Juliet did this when her parents told her to marry Paris. She had a blatant "I don't want to".
ReplyDeleteIndirect confrontation is also effective in certain circumstances. If you hear that someone has a problem with you, you may want to me subtle in mentioning it or find out more information from other people. Or you could do what the Friar did and make a plan for a solution.
I think if something is important, like Juliet and Romeo's marriage, they should've just came out and told people and face any consequences that may come. So if something is important, and may end up affecting a lot more people than yourself, I really think that you just need to suck up your fears and talk to someone about it. Less important situations could easily work out by indirect confrontation because people might get whatever it is you're trying to tell them by a subtle message, and all the problems are over, or at least better.
ReplyDeleteIt is better to work things out through direct confrontation when you are close to the person who you are disagreeing with. That way, you and the other person, get all of your reason's out on the table immediately and you don't have to worry about a middle-man.
ReplyDeleteIt's better for indirect confrontation when someone has a higher station then you (i.e. the governor) or when you don't actually know someone very well and you ask other people for help in determining the exact nature of the confrontation, but also to avoid being picked out of a crowd as the one responsible.
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ReplyDeleteIt is better to be direct because depending on the situation and the people involved some may react better to the direct approach whereas others react better to the indirect approach.
ReplyDeleteI know I am more direct on how I feel. If I dont like something I will let you know, and hear about it. It shows them how mad I really am , because it was over a text they couldnt get my sense of frustration.
its better to use direct so you can get how people are feeling and its better to talk things out when you are actually with them. I think you should use direct all the time with your friends. I say that the only time you should use indirect is when you can't get to that person or if you don't really know them.
ReplyDeletei is better to use direct confrontation if you yourself are being targeted. for example if someone is every day picking on you then you need confront them directly. yet if someone is picking on another then it is best i believe to do things indirectly.
ReplyDeletei always use direct confrontation. which isnt always the best idea. i tend to get pretty mad really easily and it normally causes a scene. however i always get my point across.
ReplyDeleteIt is better to use direct confrontation, especially if you are close to the person you are arguing with. Plus with this way you can get all your reasons straight. However, indirect confrontation can be more accurate when the person of whom you are disagreeing with is of higher station than you. Such as people like; Governors, presidents, or high dignitaries. It all depends on the situation that occurs and how you and the other person respond to it.
ReplyDeletei think being direct is the only way. not being direct can only make things worse. for example if you tell someone to tell someone else something it usually gets there in a little different form than what it started out as. i am usually direct because there really isnt any other way to solve the problem than to be direct to the source or if you are the source then confront the secondary source.
ReplyDeleteYou should just come out straight forward. The more you lie the more lies you have to say. Then more people get involved. Then all there opinions come out on what you should do. Then things get crazy and most of the time it makes matters worse.
ReplyDeleteI think if you have a big enough problem involving one other person then you should confront them and talk to them about it, but if your problem isn't that big, and with a lot of different people then you should use different means of confrontation
ReplyDeleteIts better to work things out in a direct confrontation because then you dont seem as guilty as when you wait, like you dont wanna explain because your 'lying' even if your not and some things are just come out and tell them situations. for instance, my friends told me that if i was gonna invite tyler to their party, then i had to tell my parents that i was dating tyler...i was all for beating around the bush but i ended up telling them and it was good because not even 2 weeks later, someone from school saw my mom at a mary kay meeting, and my mom wanted to know if she knew me, and she said 'is she dating that tyler kid?'.....that couldve been bad, but i didnt beat around the bush.
ReplyDeleteIts also good to do things indirectly because as dalton says, you might want to find out more information and make sure everything is how you thought it was b4 you go making a fool of yourself. even then though you have to be careful because you might get rumors and then you wouldve been better off doing things directly. If you get good information, it can be a good idea to do things indirectly before doing it directly to have a better/stronger opinion and argument.
A direct confrontation could mean that you could get caught easily, so it could be better to use indirect through a secret love life as where Romeo and Juliet have. A direct confrontation could be better when an emergency is taking place so all details could be worked out.
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